I was skimming through the Student Health Services listserve archives, and I came across this video that was created by the University of Arizona.
Overall, I like the concept A LOT, and I think the guys who appeared in it are pretty brave (especially knowing what some of the YouTube comments were going to be). A relatively minor quibble is that I wish they hadn’t spent most of the last portion of it saying that sexual assault makes men “look bad”– but I am glad that a good bit of screentime included men reacting with disgust and appropriately-expressed anger towards other men who rape.
If you’ve made a video like this, I’d love to see it. Send me a link!
Grab yourself a cup of coffee, settle in, and check this out!
Ken Winters, one of Hazelden’s authors, talks about the adolescent brain.
If you like the video, please consider sharing it as a resource for parents and other people who might be interested in how the brains of incoming college students work!
Question: My friend says that my relationship with my boyfriend is unhealthy and almost abusive. How do I know what is unhealthy and healthy in a relationship? I think we are fine.
Break The Cycle says: Your friend sounds concerned and most likely wants to help. Perhaps your friend is noticing subtle unhealthy patterns in your relationship. The key to distinguishing abusive behavior from healthy behavior is how it makes you feel. Do you feel hurt, put down, afraid, or worried when your partner acts a certain way? Do you feel like you don’t have a voice in the relationship?
Healthy relationships are built on honesty, trust, and communication. If your partner is doing things that cross your boundaries, that’s a sign of an unhealthy relationship. But these behaviors aren’t always obvious and easy to recognize. For example, a jealous partner might try to gain control by setting rules for you. Abusive behavior also includes unwanted kissing or touching of any kind—even forcing you to hold hands.
Remember, it’s not okay for your partner to make you do anything you don’t want to, no matter how many times you’ve done it before.
Blog-only note: If you feel that you may have be in an abusive relationship, or have questions about how to develop better relationship communication, please contact your school’s student health services, counseling office, or Dean of Students office for help and guidance. Often, there will be a directory on your school’s website that will help you find phone numbers and different services on campus. MyStudentBody schools have many resources listed on the Campus Resources page, once students have logged onto the site. Your school may also be listed on ULifeline.
People who read this blog might know me as the person who helps people develop implementation plans and troubleshoot technical support issues, but what you may not know is that I was once in Student Affairs. I’d like to stay current in the field, even if I am not currently a practitioner. I’ve recently been spending more time working on my profile on LinkedIn (I’ll share it when I get it whipped into shape!), and I’ve been wondering if there were any groups that it would be especially beneficial for me to join.
Anyone have any LinkedIn tips or group suggestions? Ping me on Twitter, reply to the blog, or email me at email@example.com. Thanks in advance!
I am thinking about using LinkedIn for some student affairs and health promotion networking– if you have recommendations for groups you think would be beneficial